wedding coordinator

We met with the wedding coordinator at the church we are getting married in. It all seemed rather straight forward as she described the various procedures. She was quite relaxed. I liked her. Mostly we discussed where the musicians would be, issues with the photographer. Essentially how to keep the aspect of it being an "event" from overwhelming why we're really there. The way things to chronicle the event seem to take us out of experiencing the event itself.

Afterwards she handed us a book to read that outlined the ceremony. It gave multiple suggestions for the various prayers and readings and responses for the mass. I always wondered how people do this. I always found it interesting the choices people make when it comes to the passages. Like how they read the passage of "Wives should be subordinate to their husbands" but never read the second half about "Husbands should respect their wives." When you read the entire passage there's more balance to it.

The book also discusses a few points from the reading, though some of it seems to be a bit of a stretch based on the reading itself.

They had the one the Fiance had to read at a wedding once, "My love is a gazelle," from Song of Songs, which made no sense til we read this version that read, "My love is like a gazelle." It continues on about the passions of love and how it becomes everlasting. But if I recall I think they picked the shorter reading as well.

If anything the bible is not one of these things that should be read in cliff note format. There needs to be context. We'll probably choose the longer format more often than the shorter one.

We have to add a few more tasks to the list: photograph order after the wedding, charting out for the photographer time to shoot and not shoot during the mass, designing of the church program. We don't really want the photographer to disrupt the wedding, so we should help him out as much as we can.

They have a couple of alcoves in the church with displays of the meditation for that week. It happened to be on money and how prosperity is not necessarily a numbers game, the way we remember fun childhoods even though the family was not well off financially or how the things in our life most valuable are priceless. When planning a wedding looking at budgets and coordinating and paying bills, it's nice to get a bit of perspective to remember why we are here and why we have chosen to do things this way.

We have some reading and reflection to do.

51 days to go.