Monday, February 13, 2006

1...2...3...

When I was single, my decorations around my home were mostly of single women. Pictures, art of 1 woman. In the past year, I've been collecting and putting up pictures of two, a man and a woman. I was adding pairs of things and only buying things in pairs. Or people would give us things in pairs. So now that we are two, either consciously or unconsiously threes are coming into our lives. Like I'm getting a photo of a family done by Masferre reframed so we can hang it up.

So when I was single, my family would ask me when I was going to be married. And now that we're married, we get a lot of questions about whether we're going to have a kid this year. (3 of the 4 other cousins who married within a year of our wedding date either have a new born or will be having one very soon). The 4th couple really gets harrassed. The couples who are waiting like ourselves are all looking to do some serious world travelling before having the kids. My stock answer is that we'll look to starting a family next year after the trip to France in the fall that we're planning for our 1 year anniversary. Which is true, and not some attempt to simply put off my family, although it has that side effect.

The other day we received a gift from one of our sponsors. A rock, with a Petraglyph. A man, a woman, and a baby in simple lines. Hmm...is that a hint? OK, so I would much rather receive my hints that way rather than my aunt rubbing my stomach and asking me if there's anything there yet, which actually happened this weekend. (I really don't know how pregnant women deal with strangers wanting to touch their stomachs).

In the meantime, we'll just take this time to spend with all the nieces and nephews running around.

1 comment:

Rebecca Mabanglo-Mayor said...

You have my total sympathy, m'dear. We waited eight years to have our first child for various reasons, some unavoidable, others by choice. It was all made worse from my side of the family since my hubby is white and therefore object of suspicion. *chuckle*

Now that we've had two, we still get asked if we'll have another. I think it's just a way for people to say "Hey, you know, you're a terrific couple, we want you to be happy." Which is cool too.

Hang in there! And as I was once advised - have kids when you've had enough sleep and sex... *wink*